Except, as Unity pointed out, that’s not the issue. Ultimately Sweetheart’s jealousy of Remy stems from her own insecurity with her relationship with Unity, but by projecting her worries outward on Remy she’s implicitly denying Unity’s personal agency in the situation.
Right now Unity is telling Sweetheart to show her more respect and Sweetheart seems to be missing the point. Or possibly Unity knows that in order for the message to sink in she has to give Unity a chance to be the last one to be right.
It seems to me what Sweetheart is actually trying to ask is, “Why would you make the choice to be with me instead of with him?”. She’s being insecure about her own worth, not questioning Unity’s ability to think for herself. (We all know Unity thinks for herself – and most of the time, that’s the problem!)
She’s implying – whether she is consciously thinking it or not – that she doubts Unity’s loyalty.
If anyone can “steal” your girlfriend away, then your girlfriend’s loyalty is as much at fault as the person who stole them away from you.
Granted, some girlfriends should be doubted (I could name a few of my exes as examples), but Unity has never given Sweetheart any reason to. Which brings us to your point about Sweetheart doubting her own worth.
(She’s also questioning Remy’s intentions, which she also has no reason to. But his intentions would be irrelevant if she were secure about herself and about Unity.)
When I think of loyalty, I think of obligation. You are loyal to a king, you are loyal to a government, you are loyal to an ally, et cetera.
If the only reason someone is in a relationship with you is out of obligation, get out.
People should be in relationships because they want to be, both for their own sake and for the other person’s sake.
And I think Sweetheart’s problem here is that she is uncertain what Unity actually wants and she doubts her own ability to be desireable – which suggests they’re not communicating properly about those things, which is unhealthy.
If Sweetheart feels insecure, rationally or not, Unity needs to do more to reassure her against that insecurity, not chastize her for -daring- to have doubts. That’s not cool. Expecting people to never have doubts is unrealistic and unfair.
Loyalty is related to obligation, but it’s not the same. You can be loyal to someone without being obligated. I’m loyal to my best friend – not because I have to be, but because I want to be. Loyalty is a choice.
Actually, I meant loyalty. If you look up fidelity, you’ll find that it’s synonymous with loyalty. And the first definition given for loyalty is “faithfulness to commitments”.
It occurs to me Unity could have had a guaranteed job at Mythbusters.
“According to Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom, one can successfully jump from a plane to a Himalayan mountain in a rubber life raft! Sounds a little iffy, right? Well, Unity is willing to give it a shot!”
Huh; my brother did that with a parachute made from a sheet when I was six years old (he was eleven.) Sweetheart would’ve been right then, too; it was a bad decision on my brother’s part. But hey, he was only on crutches for a couple of weeks! And I eventually was forgiven for being on the roof too.
Great. It’s bedtime and I’ve got Homer and Jethro’s “Don’t Jump Off The Roof, Dad” running through my head…
One of my childhood favorites! I often sung it to my kids at appropriate moments too!
When *UNITY* is the voice of reason you know you got problems
And this isn’t the first time either.
She’s shown more than once that she’s pretty wise, just immature.
Heh; the little white dog in the Tarot card “The Fool” is *also* about to go off the cliff. People forget that.
Oh, good point!
Doesn’t help Sweetheart much that Remy seems, er, interested in Unity.
Except, as Unity pointed out, that’s not the issue. Ultimately Sweetheart’s jealousy of Remy stems from her own insecurity with her relationship with Unity, but by projecting her worries outward on Remy she’s implicitly denying Unity’s personal agency in the situation.
Right now Unity is telling Sweetheart to show her more respect and Sweetheart seems to be missing the point. Or possibly Unity knows that in order for the message to sink in she has to give Unity a chance to be the last one to be right.
I thought UNITY would end up with Remy and Sweetheart would end up with Sparkle. Where is Sparkle, anyway/
Both sides have a point, but in two separate issues.
This exchange seems a bit odd to me.
It seems to me what Sweetheart is actually trying to ask is, “Why would you make the choice to be with me instead of with him?”. She’s being insecure about her own worth, not questioning Unity’s ability to think for herself. (We all know Unity thinks for herself – and most of the time, that’s the problem!)
She’s implying – whether she is consciously thinking it or not – that she doubts Unity’s loyalty.
If anyone can “steal” your girlfriend away, then your girlfriend’s loyalty is as much at fault as the person who stole them away from you.
Granted, some girlfriends should be doubted (I could name a few of my exes as examples), but Unity has never given Sweetheart any reason to. Which brings us to your point about Sweetheart doubting her own worth.
(She’s also questioning Remy’s intentions, which she also has no reason to. But his intentions would be irrelevant if she were secure about herself and about Unity.)
This.^ All of this.
When I think of loyalty, I think of obligation. You are loyal to a king, you are loyal to a government, you are loyal to an ally, et cetera.
If the only reason someone is in a relationship with you is out of obligation, get out.
People should be in relationships because they want to be, both for their own sake and for the other person’s sake.
And I think Sweetheart’s problem here is that she is uncertain what Unity actually wants and she doubts her own ability to be desireable – which suggests they’re not communicating properly about those things, which is unhealthy.
If Sweetheart feels insecure, rationally or not, Unity needs to do more to reassure her against that insecurity, not chastize her for -daring- to have doubts. That’s not cool. Expecting people to never have doubts is unrealistic and unfair.
Loyalty is related to obligation, but it’s not the same. You can be loyal to someone without being obligated. I’m loyal to my best friend – not because I have to be, but because I want to be. Loyalty is a choice.
As for the rest of your comment… yes, absolutely.
If you’re going to split hairs, then awgie meant fidelity, rather than loyalty. Treat is though that’s what awgie said.
Actually, I meant loyalty. If you look up fidelity, you’ll find that it’s synonymous with loyalty. And the first definition given for loyalty is “faithfulness to commitments”.
Whew! Just got caught up after my surgery last week! What a great week of strips!
May your recovery be smooth and swift!
Thank you!
Alas Sweetheart, the freedom to choose is also the freedom to occasionally make lousy choices.
It occurs to me Unity could have had a guaranteed job at Mythbusters.
“According to Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom, one can successfully jump from a plane to a Himalayan mountain in a rubber life raft! Sounds a little iffy, right? Well, Unity is willing to give it a shot!”
Huh; my brother did that with a parachute made from a sheet when I was six years old (he was eleven.) Sweetheart would’ve been right then, too; it was a bad decision on my brother’s part. But hey, he was only on crutches for a couple of weeks! And I eventually was forgiven for being on the roof too.